BDSM stands for "Bondage/Discipline" "Dominance/Submission" "Sadism/Masochism". A person into BDSM may or may not be into all of these categories. You will also hear the terms "S&M" (sadism & masochism), "S/M" (Sex Magick), and "D/s" (Dominance/submission). While these are all erotic sexual practices, most people in "the Scene" will tell you that 50-75% of it is mental/emotional.

Sometimes people in a regular relationship ("vanilla") try tying each other up once in a while, or act out a spanking scene, to spice up their love life. At the other extreme, there are those who are "24/7", people who live in a "Total Power Exchange" (TPE) with the Dominant partner having total control over all aspect of the submissive partner's life.

The catch-phrase you will hear most often is SAFE-SANE-CONSENTUAL. SAFE -- looking out for each other's personal safety. SANE -- looking out for each other's mental/emotional health. CONSENTUAL -- Both partners are of legal age, and are making their choices with informed consent.

BDSM does not mean rape, it does not mean emotional and physical abuse or battering. If you did not consent, it shouldn't happen.

It all sounds very interesting but are you up to it? that's another post for my blog.

Girl Talk!

Some friends gather up the other day online for an open chat. Some of them were married and most of them not. Actually I don’t know these girls, just happened to stumble into their chat room in one of the chat programs.

I just could not believe it that these women were all online just to talk about their sexual preferences and ideologies. I was not only surprised but very fascinated as well. I consider myself bisexual and therefore found many interesting real life stories to set my foot and directions too. God I hope they were not empty vessels just got drunk and blabbering nonsense online. Seriously hope they meant it.

One of the conversations they hit was about Men and roughness. Many women there had this conversation about how their men were with them. Some complained they were too rough while some commented they love being hustled in bed. I sat and wonder at that moment, what it was I like with my men.

I’m someone who’s very sensitive. So I don’t like people being rough. It’s a turn off. At the same time if the person who is rough on me is someone I really enjoy his or her company with, I’ll make sure they don’t try hard to give me an orgasm but I’ll just blow the guys to make them cum. As for the girls… well if I’m not high and in ecstasy, no way I’m doing you a favor! It’s only fair!

I don’t mind though if the guy gets me really high and then be a little rough. At least the lots of saliva on my neck and heavy petting will take my mind away from the pain. As it is I’m a very alert person whenever I make love to anyone to make sure I DON’T end up having an intercourse. As I’ve mentioned in my earlier posts I only love oral sex and NO INTERCOURSE till the night I say I DO!.

The more I type now the more I’m craving for a wet hot slimy tongue on my neck…. Geezzzz time to visit the torture love chamber again!